Obsessed with someone?
- Ekta Dodhia
- Nov 2, 2020
- 3 min read
Edited by Parita Nagaria
Obsession is when a thought or idea is continuously on your mind, but in this case, instead of a thought or an idea, it is a person who is continuously on your mind. You probably feel this overwhelming attraction to that person and the need to protect them. However, you may not even understand the reason why you need to protect them, you feel everyone may be out to get them. You probably also get extremely jealous over the person’s interpersonal relations with others.
When you are obsessive, you tend to take rejections very badly. You may not understand entirely why they rejected you, you will only see the love you have for the other person. Forgetting to understand other people's feelings and only giving importance to your feelings is a very big indication that you are obsessed over the person.
Signs that you are obsessive over someone:
Controlling nature
The need to control the other person/partners every move, where they go, who they see and not even asking about their wishes. Almost like imposing your rule and law on someone. Constantly telling them "I do not like this" and expecting them to change their life according to you. For example, Your significant other decides they do not want to go on a date with you, and instead, spend time with their friends. You will not like this and express this and expect them to change their plans to your liking, and if they refuse to change their plans, you end up throwing a tantrum or having a fight over this.
Constantly be in touch
Repeated text messages and calls or wanting to meet all the time. Distance is good within a relationship but because you are so engrossed with that person, you can't understand that concept. If the person does not answer your calls, you will probably leave them with severe amounts of missed calls and texts. In doing this, you might end up pushing the person away, and in case you had something urgent or important that you needed to convey to them, they might not even respond because they are used to your repeated calling. This would happen just because you make every time seem like a serious situation, yet, it would have been completely okay for you to wait until they got back to you.
Constant need to be reassured
Being insecure to the point where you need to be reassured that they love only you. if they even meet with a friend of the opposite gender, your insecurity will show up, and stop you from trusting that person. You need them to be in front of your eyes to trust them and always do as you say, but that isn't how a healthy relationships work.
You are lonely
You do not have many friends and the few that you do have, are now distant. This could be due to the lack of interest from your side or because you avoid them to spend time with your significant other. If your best friend from childhood is no longer an important part of your life, and all you have to say is “we grew apart”, then you really need to ask yourself "did you really?"
You should know you are obsessed about someone when you make the person your entire world. When you do not want to do or see anything without them . When you forget that there are other people in your life, the need to be attached to the hip even though the other person may not feel the same. Do not suffocate the one you love, as the saying goes, "If you love someone let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were".
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