Situationship
- Ekta Dodhia
- Aug 10, 2020
- 3 min read
Edited By Parita Nagaria
Are you in a situationship? If you don’t know the answer to that question and want to find out, then continue reading below.
A situationship is a romantic relationship that is undefined and uncommitted, whether it be temporary or long-term. With a situationship, the boundaries are less clear as one or both partners might be waiting to see if the relationship is going to become more serious over time.
Remember when in high school you would call it “going out with” someone and in college you called it “talking to” someone because your relationship wasn’t defined. Well, now that gray area or the period of where you’re almost in a relationship, but not actually, is called a “situationship”. There are certain things that come with being in a situationship, and depending on your views it could be good or bad. Many couples actually part ways from this stage due to the confusion and never even take the chance to get into an actual relationship.
Some of the signs that you are in a situationship include:
Undefined relationship
This is when you and your partner haven’t figured out if you’re on the same page because of various reasons like; one of you may have more feelings for the other or want more out of the relationship. There is no definite name to the relationship shared between two individuals. For example, when your friends ask you what your relationship status is, and your answer is “It’s complicated” or “we are trying to figure it out”. You basically haven’t had the conversation about “us” yet.
Feeling confused/ anxious
In a normal relationship, the early stages are an exciting time, however, in a situationship, you are more or less confused and anxious throughout the phase of getting to know each other. For example, you may be unsure whether you are just friends, dating or friends with benefits, even after knowing each other for say, six months. There is a lack of direction to the relationship which may also be a source of stress, especially if you have strong feelings for the person.
Avoiding the “Future” talk
Maybe you see each other more frequently or have hookups, but both (or one) of you aren’t sure if you want to be in a relationship yet. You are prolonging the time you have with each other but avoiding the serious conversation about where it is going. Neither of you talk about moving your relationship forward or what your future together entails, therefore lack of future in the relationship.
Attending events as a single
When there are events like marriages, parties, birthday brunches, you make sure to attend them on your own. You never bring your “partner” along as a plus one. It could be because you are not ready to introduce them to your friends yet. They do not need to be included in every event but they probably would have attended some personal events, if the relationship had been defined. You could be attending your best friend’s wedding reception, and are allowed to bring a plus one, and yet you choose not to invite your human :P.
You aren’t a very important part of each other's lives.
You haven’t introduced each other to your friends and family. You do not tell each other everything going in your lives. You keep them at an arm's distance. For example, you are not always looking forward to seeing them or talking to them and telling them about your day, neither are you eager to know about their day. But more importantly, you just want to spend time with them in general even though they might not be your foremost priority.
So? Have you figured out if you are in a situationship? Get in touch to let me know your views/thoughts via the comment section!
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