Reasons why people may stay in an unhealthy Relationship
- Ekta Dodhia
- Dec 1, 2020
- 3 min read
Updated: Dec 2, 2020
We all know that most relationships have their highs and lows because they are complex. Relationships are not perfect all the time and that is completely normal. However, many people stay in a relationship that may not be working entirely. Most relationships end when both partners find it hard to make it work between them as the relationship starts becoming more toxic and unhealthy for them mentally. But in many cases people just do not know when to leave and they continue staying in a dead relationship.
Reasons why people stay in an unhealthy relationship:
Low self-esteem
When a person has low self-esteem they tend to stay in an unhealthy relationship because they cannot see their self worth. Therefore, they do not understand when their mental health is being affected. This leads to them not leaving the relationship as they feel if they speak up and show their unhappiness in the relationship they will have to face rejections. Yet if someone gives them the support to speak up they will gain confidence and do what is right for themselves.
Loneliness
The fear of being lonely at times keeps many in an unhealthy relationship because the feeling is strong enough to override any other feelings that they may have. Therefore, they may be okay with staying in an unhappy relationship rather than be alone and happy. So the only way is if they are able to conquer that fear and learn to find happiness within themselves.
“It’s life” attitude
Most people go with the thought that this is life and everything cannot be perfect, therefore, they feel that the unhealthy relationship they are in is good enough. Also, they will probably justify that they are in a good relationship by comparing theirs to an even more unhealthy relationship or an abusive one. The lack of experience as an individual in relationships can also lead to this as you do not have anything to compare your current relationship with.
Immune to Abuse
Some people get used to the abuse over time, because they may not have had the confidence to get out of the relationship or been scared to say anything at the time. Therefore, they ended up staying in an abusive relationship resulting in them getting immune to the constant abuse after a certain period. This can also happen when you have been around an abusive environment since you were young leading to the lack of understanding on what is abusive and what is not. These people would then need help recognizing what is a healthy relationship and helping them by supporting them is very important as they may be very sensitive.
For the children
Some people stay in a relationship because they have children together. They want their children to receive both their parents' love without all the hustle that would come if they separated. Therefore, many parents will not separate however, they forget that at times this can do more damage than good for the child. Especially if the parents argue constantly and it usually makes everything more complicated in the two individuals' lives then it can be toxic for the children to be in such an environment. So instead of staying in an unhealthy relationship for your children which can cause them mental stress, you would rather separate and make them understand the reasons without blaming either parent.
Understand that staying in an unhealthy relationship is not going to help you in any way but only hold you back. You need to gain the confidence and love yourself enough to help yourself. Make yourself your first priority, we tend to forget ourselves most of the time. However, one way to remind yourself is by having a quote in your wallet, on your laptop screen, phone screen, anything to motivate you to remember that YOU ARE WORTH IT!!
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